Contributed by Writer: Ashly McVea-Figueroa
Creater of: Alice & Eddy Party
Blogger at: www.aliceonsunday.com
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| Photo by: Iridescent Photography |
I have always been a very career focused person. Then I
became a mom and became a very motherhood focused person. And that’s ok. I
juggled both for about 4 years in the sports + entertainment industry and it
was killer. The thing about that particular industry is it never sleeps.
Unfortunately, neither does an infant…or a toddler and a newborn in the same
house, or two toddlers in the same room.
became a mom and became a very motherhood focused person. And that’s ok. I
juggled both for about 4 years in the sports + entertainment industry and it
was killer. The thing about that particular industry is it never sleeps.
Unfortunately, neither does an infant…or a toddler and a newborn in the same
house, or two toddlers in the same room.
Things started falling through the cracks in my life. I was
missing soccer practices and mommy & me dances and good night kisses.
Meanwhile, I was promoted 3 times in a 3-year span. And that was what all my
hard work was for, right? But, in all that success, it felt really empty.
Seriously, empty.
missing soccer practices and mommy & me dances and good night kisses.
Meanwhile, I was promoted 3 times in a 3-year span. And that was what all my
hard work was for, right? But, in all that success, it felt really empty.
Seriously, empty.
So I quit! And don’t get me wrong; Mama Bears can have it
all. Women do it every-freaking-day. Women work full time jobs while pumping in
their cubicles, talking on the phone and setting up play dates. I see it all
time. I was living that life. But I wanted more out of motherhood. I made the
choice to give up career so that I could sacrifice ZERO in motherhood.
all. Women do it every-freaking-day. Women work full time jobs while pumping in
their cubicles, talking on the phone and setting up play dates. I see it all
time. I was living that life. But I wanted more out of motherhood. I made the
choice to give up career so that I could sacrifice ZERO in motherhood.
The thing is, I don’t feel less successful—I started a small
business (Alice & Eddy Party) that has made less than $1000 in the first
month of business, I’m cash poor (for now) and that is ok….kinda. It’s a process.
business (Alice & Eddy Party) that has made less than $1000 in the first
month of business, I’m cash poor (for now) and that is ok….kinda. It’s a process.
In the same vein, I didn’t turn into super mom. I still let
me kids watch way “too much” tv. I still make grilled cheese instead of
preparing a 3 course meal…you get the picture.
me kids watch way “too much” tv. I still make grilled cheese instead of
preparing a 3 course meal…you get the picture.
The point it, I am happy. My kids see and feel my presence
all the time. I am loved so fully and now I have the time & the energy to
show them that same level of “I can’t live without you” kind of love that they
have always shown me.
all the time. I am loved so fully and now I have the time & the energy to
show them that same level of “I can’t live without you” kind of love that they
have always shown me.
I am a stay-at-home Mama Bear with a master’s degree and
experience in an industry that some people never break into. How crazy is that?
But it is my reality and I’m standing in it…happily.
experience in an industry that some people never break into. How crazy is that?
But it is my reality and I’m standing in it…happily.
I really enjoyed your pieces of writing, I keep reading and reading and do not want it to end. So glad that you are happy and that the kids have you all for themselves!
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